WHAT IS VIOLENCE
AGAINST WOMEN (VAW)?
VAW has been defined in the
United Nations Declaration on the Elimination of Violence Against Women:
Violence Against Women (VAW) is any act of gender-based violence
that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual or
psychological harm or suffering to women, including threats of such
acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in
public or in private life.
Violence Against Women encompasses, but is not limited to the following:
a)
Physical, sexual and psychological violence occurring in the
family, including battering, sexual abuse of female children in the
household, dowry-related violence, marital rape, female genital
mutilation and other traditional practices harmful to women, non-spousal
violence and violence related to exploitation.
b)
Violence occurring within the general community, including rape,
sexual abuse, sexual harassment and intimidation at work, in educational
institutions and elsewhere, trafficking in women and forced
prostitution.
c)
Violence perpetrated or condoned by the State, wherever it
occurs.
FORMS OF ABUSE
Physical Violence-
any physical action toward another person (pushing, hitting, whipping,
throwing, slapping and spanking) can produce bruises, broken homes and
broken lives. When another human being hits a person, it is demeaning,
it is a message of worthlessness and the victim may think, “I’m no good;
hence, I deserve to be hit.” It creates tremendous burden on the
person’s ability to cope with life.
Emotional Violence-
is far more than the usual cursing, blaming, threatening and
manipulating. It is putting her down or making her feel bad about
herself. Its scars go deep as physical wounds and actually take longer
to heal. This is not directly observable but can have long-lasting
effects on the personality of the victim.
Verbal Abuse-
Can become a prison, a humiliation and deprivation; conversations that
tear down self-esteem; calling her names.
Economic Abuse-
trying to keep her from getting or keeping a job; making her ask for
money; giving her allowance; taking her money; controlling the financial
aspects of the family.
Sexual Abuse-
making her do sexual acts against her will; marital rape; forcing
unwanted and sadistic sexual acts; treating her as a sex object;
physically attacking the sexual parts of her body; making demeaning and
sexually suggestive remarks.
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Rape
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Sexual harassment
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Incest
CYCLE
OF VIOLENCE
When violence is part of the
way couples interact, there is a pattern that tends to occur. The
pattern consists of several phases:
Tension
Building Stage- A phase
where tension builds up in a relationship and the couple cannot overcome
by talking it out. One partner controls and dominates the situation
while the victim (usually the woman) is frightened to do anything and is
eventually powerless to prevent a violent outburst.
Violent
Outburst/Battering Incident-
Violence may not always be physical. It may involve extreme physical
harm to the victim, or emotional scarring which is not visible to the
casual observer. The batterer (usually the man) justifies his behavior
as teaching the victim a lesson.
The victim usually has no control of
the outburst-only a safe hiding place. She may even deny seriousness to
appease the batterer and to end the abuse.
Pursuit Phase/Honeymoon Stage-
They abuser may feel remorse or sorrow for his behavior and may be
fearful that his partner will leave him. He attempts to recover lost
ground by asking forgiveness, giving presents, making promises about the
future and modifying his behavior.
When forgiveness has been sought,
it may be a time of great closeness for the couple. However, given the
problems of daily life, tension will rise again and may gradually lead
them back to the build-up phase and the cycle begins again.
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